{"id":36030,"date":"2023-01-08T15:32:23","date_gmt":"2023-01-08T15:32:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/cjstudents.com\/?p=36030"},"modified":"2023-01-08T15:32:23","modified_gmt":"2023-01-08T15:32:23","slug":"why-do-all-of-joes-girlfriends-look-like-his-mom","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cjstudents.com\/index.php\/2023\/01\/08\/why-do-all-of-joes-girlfriends-look-like-his-mom\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Do All of Joe&#8217;s Girlfriends Look Like His Mom?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> [ad_1]<\/p>\n<div itemprop=\"text\">\n<p>Joe has many creepy habits in the <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.cheatsheet.com\/tag\/netflix\/\" rel=\"noopener\">Netflix<\/a> series, <em>You<\/em>, not the least of which is dating (read: stalking and killing) women who look like his mother. <\/p>\n<p>Now, <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.cheatsheet.com\/entertainment\/you-season-4-netflix-teases-murder-mystery-plot.html\/\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>You<\/em> Season 4<\/a>, which premieres on  February 9 on the streamer (just in time for Valentine\u2019s Day, of course), looks to involve Joe (Penn Badgley) hiding out in Paris. We\u2019re betting he packed all his mommy baggage for the trip. Here\u2019s what we mean:<\/p>\n<aside class=\"ad-holder has-ad spt-initial\"\/>\n<h2 id=\"h-you-season-3-joe-was-abandoned-by-his-mom\">\u2018You\u2019 Season 3: Joe was abandoned by his mom<\/h2>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Joe meets mom again| You season 3 finale|Mom abandons Joe\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/S-HBGygDPkU?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/figure>\n<p>Many suspected Joe\u2019s mommy issues early in the series. Flashbacks throughout Seasons 2 and 3 reveal that Joe\u2019s mom traumatized him at a young age. Always dating abusive men, Sandy worked as a sex worker and often left Joe to fend for himself (like when she deserted him at a grocery store for a date) or, worse, face the consequences of her actions in her stead.<\/p>\n<p>After Joe takes matters into his own hands and kills his father, Sandy abandons him at a home for young boys. But <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.cheatsheet.com\/entertainment\/penn-badgley-victoria-pedretti-same-favorite-scene-you-season-3.html\/\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>You <\/em>Season 3 reveals<\/a> Joe never let go of the hope that his mother will return for him.<\/p>\n<p>Joe eventually finds her \u2014 making his mother the first woman he ever stalked \u2014 living a squeaky-clean new life, complete with a stand-in version of himself, Joe\u2019s younger half-brother, Jake. <\/p>\n<p>The trauma doesn\u2019t stop there. Joe confronts his mother, only to be abandoned again. His mother left him with the idea that, even though she loved him, sometimes \u201cpeople have to start over.\u201d This soul-crushing moment comes full circle in <em>You <\/em>Season 3 when Joe abandons his child, Henry.<\/p>\n<h2>\u2018You\u2019 fans say Joe Goldberg\u2019s girlfriends all look like his mom<\/h2>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large is-resized\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.cheatsheet.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Elizabeth-Lail-Penn-Badgley-You-Netflix.jpg?w=925\" alt=\"Elizabeth Lail and Penn Badgley give a media interview for You in 2018\" class=\"wp-image-3326017\" width=\"1200\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.cheatsheet.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Elizabeth-Lail-Penn-Badgley-You-Netflix.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/www.cheatsheet.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Elizabeth-Lail-Penn-Badgley-You-Netflix.jpg?w=150&amp;h=100 150w, https:\/\/www.cheatsheet.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Elizabeth-Lail-Penn-Badgley-You-Netflix.jpg?w=640&amp;h=427 640w, https:\/\/www.cheatsheet.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Elizabeth-Lail-Penn-Badgley-You-Netflix.jpg?w=768&amp;h=513 768w, https:\/\/www.cheatsheet.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Elizabeth-Lail-Penn-Badgley-You-Netflix.jpg?w=1024&amp;h=684 1024w, https:\/\/www.cheatsheet.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Elizabeth-Lail-Penn-Badgley-You-Netflix.jpg?w=90&amp;h=60 90w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1200px) 100vw, 1200px\"\/><figcaption><em>You<\/em> Season 1 stars Elizabeth Lail and Penn Badgley in 2018 | David Livingston\/Getty Images<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>In a fascinating theory, fans point out that Joe\u2019s girlfriends in <em>You <\/em>all resemble his mother in various ways. <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.cheatsheet.com\/entertainment\/you-guinevere-becks-death-book-lot-more-graphic-netflix-series.html\/\" rel=\"noopener\">Beginning in <em>You <\/em>Season 1<\/a>, Beck (played by Elizabeth Lail) shares similar characteristics to Sandy (played by Magda Apanowicz). She has similar face shape, nose, and smile. Also, in Season 1, Candace (Ambyr Childers) has red hair like Joe\u2019s mom and similar eyebrows.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><em>You <\/em>Season 2 introduces Love, who, like Beck, looks a lot like Joe\u2019s mom. Played by Victoria Pedretti, Love has a similar face shape to Sandy and pillowy lips and ears that stick out just a little. Not to mention Beck and Love both have light-colored, soulful eyes like Sandy\u2019s.<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-rich is-provider-twitter wp-block-embed-twitter\"\/>\n<p>Then, in <em>You<\/em> Season 3, Joe falls for Marienne (played by Tati Gabrielle), who some fans say breaks Joe\u2019s pattern. Others, however, see a similarity in her face shape and say she fits his type. Like Joe\u2019s other girlfriends, Marienne is a girl next door: pretty, but in an understated way, just like his mom.<\/p>\n<p>Noticing similarities between <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.cheatsheet.com\/entertainment\/you-season-4-first-look-image-hints-joe-moves-marienne.html\/\" rel=\"noopener\">Joe\u2019s mother and his girlfriends<\/a> in the series, fans took to <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/YouOnLifetime\/comments\/qaedvw\/does_anyone_notice_how_all_of_joes_exs_looks\/\" rel=\"noopener\">Reddit<\/a> to discuss Joe\u2019s psychology in <em>You<\/em>. \u201cDoes anyone notice how all of Joe\u2019s ex\u2019s [sic] looks similar to his mom?\u201d one fan asks. \u201cDoes it root back to his abandonment issues? Opinions?\u201d Another user replies, \u201cSigmund Freud is laughing in his grave.\u201d<\/p>\n<h2>\u2018You\u2019: Joe Goldberg\u2019s trauma with his mother is a significant trait among real serial killers<\/h2>\n<p>The user who references psychologist Sigmund Freud is spot on. The link between sons and mothers is age-old. Many psychologists point to maternal influences (or lack thereof) as the motivation behind some of the world\u2019s worst serial killers. (For example, <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.ranker.com\/list\/serial-killers-who-hated-their-moms\/ada-hart\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Ranker<\/a> has a terrifying list of serial killers suspected to be heavily influenced by their mothers).\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Dr. Elizabeth Yardley, Director of Birmingham City University\u2019s Center for Applied Criminology (via <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.thesun.co.uk\/living\/4356432\/these-are-the-three-types-of-mums-most-likely-to-raise-a-murderer-is-yours-one-of-them\/\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">The Sun<\/a>), points out serial killers often suffer at the hand of three types of mothers: the Anti-Mother, Uber Mother, or Passive Mother. <\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-rich is-provider-twitter wp-block-embed-twitter\"\/>\n<p>In <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.cheatsheet.com\/entertainment\/you-4-important-loose-ends-remember-going-season-4.html\/\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>You, <\/em>Joe\u2019s mother,<em> <\/em>Sandy<\/a>, would likely be considered the first sort, the Anti-Mother. She is drawn to abusive partners and creates alternative value systems in their children.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>While <em>You <\/em>Season 3 sees Joe abandon Henry much like Sandy abandoned Joe, one notable difference exists. Contrary to Sandy\u2019s dumping Joe off at the home for boys, Joe leaves Henry with Dante and his husband, who (as viewers see in a flash forward) give Henry a loving home. <\/p>\n<p>This turn encapsulates why viewers continue to be drawn to Joe (and why Netflix\u2019s <em>You<\/em> is such a massive hit): Joe is a killer, but he is a killer we understand and sometimes even love.\u00a0So, it seems Joe\u2019s mother was right; sometimes, people <em>do <\/em>have to start over. Now, onto Paris!<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p>[ad_2]<br \/>\n<br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/news.google.com\/__i\/rss\/rd\/articles\/CBMiW2h0dHBzOi8vd3d3LmNoZWF0c2hlZXQuY29tL2VudGVydGFpbm1lbnQveW91LXdoeS1kby1hbGwtam9lLWdpcmxmcmllbmRzLWxvb2stbGlrZS1tb20uaHRtbC_SAQA?oc=5\">Source link <\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>[ad_1] Joe has many creepy habits in the Netflix series, You, not the least of&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":36031,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[24],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-36030","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-theory"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/cjstudents.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/36030","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/cjstudents.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/cjstudents.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cjstudents.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cjstudents.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=36030"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/cjstudents.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/36030\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":36032,"href":"https:\/\/cjstudents.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/36030\/revisions\/36032"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cjstudents.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/36031"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/cjstudents.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=36030"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cjstudents.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=36030"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cjstudents.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=36030"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}